Friday, May 16, 2008

Attitude Matters

I have been thinking a lot lately about my attitude, and the effects it has on the people I am around. My attitude quite often effects the outcome of the decisions my husband makes for our family. I'm sad to admit that some times I have not always had the right attitude about the things that I know would be good, and in turn that has caused my husband to have the same attitude.

I sometimes find it hard to always meet my husband at the door with a smile, and cheerful disposition after a bad day at home. You know one of those days where it seemed you worked all day and nothing got done and the kids wouldn't listen. Days like that often turn into an even worse day if my grouchiness continues after Sean comes home.

I thought about being the helpmate I should be to my husband. I sometimes struggle with being the spiritual strength and support he needs. I really need to make sure that just because going somewhere, or doing something isn't always convenient for me doesn't mean I shouldn't. It is much easier to stay home in the comfort of my own home than to pack an unimaginable amount of clothing and necessities for a weekend away. But I know that opting to stay home hasn't always been the best decision for our family. And the times when I have gone we have been truly blessed.

I thought abut the way I entreat my children and how my dealings with them effect there moods, and how they entreat me and others they are around. I really do need to be careful to be kind and show love even when disciplining. I need to make sure my attitude about God and living the faith is one I want them to see. I truly want them to know that putting God first is the most important thing, and I want them to be able to see that through my life.

I feel like the Lord has shown me in the last few days that my attitude is very important. It is something I need to be aware of, and take into consideration when things aren't always going the way I think they should. Quite often it was because of my attitude.

13 comments:

Amber Lois said...

This is so true. I think that this is something that most people have to work on. When in regards to me this is something that i always have to consider. I'm a really moody person.

"Neena" said...

Yeah, that's true. Although my attitude doesn't affect things like taking trips or anything, each person affects everybody that they are around, and I need to be careful, because my younger siblings are watching me, and they are going to do what I do most of the time. I agree with Amber, I think that this is something just about everybody has to work on. It looks like some people have an easy time of it, but the truth is that they just keep it under control, and instead of thinking "Well it's easy for them to be good!", we should instead watch them, and learn from them.

Mom of 3, Aunt of 13 said...

That sounds just like me. It seems that whenever I have a better attitude about things God works things out very smoothly. This last year 2 times the Lord helped me out before trips. The first time I got an unusual amount of chores done the day we left. All the chores were done, which is unusual at our house. The 2nd time it was on my mind to go and be a comfort to some brethern that lost a son & brother unexpectadly. I was waiting for my husband to say something. He didn't but after the 2nd attempt at making my usual Saturday plans failed, I said, "I think there may be a reason for this." So we quickly made the decision to go. It was wonderful blessing for us. It may not always seem like it but us wives definately have an influence on our husbands and children.

Chantel said...

You are a good example. Thank you for giving me something to take with me and think about today!

Cherrie said...

I agree so much on what you had to say. If my attitude is bad then everyone in my family feels it. Something I think I need to work on also, thanks for the reminder...

Jules said...

Very good post, and it was a very good thing to be put in mind of. I catch myself having a bad attitude sometimes, which may affect other people, and not even mean to. Then they have a bad attitude and it affects even more people, and so on. We all need to try to keep a good attitude about everything, thanks for the reminder :)

meNmykids said...

YEP,Yep, yep and yep. I second it all. I'm not always the best mood maker....

billynbarb said...

Wow my husband and I were just talking about this the other day. We both decided we need a lot of work in that department.

skylene said...

Good post. It does seem like when I am a grouch my kids cry a lot and they are a lot harder to care for. It also takes all of the joy out of everything if I don't control my mood.

Tish said...

This is so, so true. There are a lot of times when I see that our family is not as happy and peaceful as we should be and most of the time it points back to my attitude. I have actually been having a real problem with this; so it was good for me to read your post. I feel like that if I had a good attitude all day, everyday I family would be so much better off.

Trina said...

This is something that I can work on daily as well. I have seen how my attitude can effect everyone around me. Even Isaiah and I had a chat about that the other day, however he was the one instructing me...lol What goes around comes around...hehehe Great post and good food for thought!

Sis Stubby said...

My hubby used to tell the kids "if Momma aint happy then no bodys happy" but that was for different reasons. It is so true. We do set the tone for our familys a lot of the time. I so need to work on this at times. Last week was on of those weeks.

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